Worth & shame4 min read
I Can Do It Myself
A few years ago, I fractured my leg just before Diwali. Diwali is my favourite festival. I love cleaning the house, decorating it, getting everything…
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I write about what actually happens in healing: the mother wound, the patterns we inherit, why love is sometimes not enough, and the parts of this process nobody puts on a brochure.
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Love & relationships2 min read
I Was So Busy Making It Work
It’s been a year and a half since I left my marriage, and there have been so many changes. Small ones, mostly. The kind nobody would notice, except…
Love & relationships5 min read
Choosing Someone Who Doesn't Choose Us
Some time back, a client asked me, “Why do I keep choosing this person who doesn’t love me the way I love them? I keep wishing things could be…
Mothering4 min read
I am ashamed that I fail my child too often
Lately, I have been struggling with my elder one. He is twelve plus now. And I can feel him moving away from the little boy I knew into someone I am…
The healing process4 min read
Karwa Chauth : Then and Now
The first Karva Chauth after my separation, I dreaded the day. Not because I wanted my marriage back. But because, after sixteen years, I was no…
Worth & shame4 min read
When money isn’t just money
When I was setting up my home after my separation, I bought things without looking at the price. A particular sofa I had wanted for years. Things for…
The healing process2 min read
What If Closure Never Comes?
For a long time, I kept trying to make my marriage work in my head. I replayed conversations. Thought about what he should have said, what he should…
Love & relationships6 min read
When love is still there and yet...
“I don’t know what’s wrong with me.” She looked at me and said, “He is a good man.” Then she started telling me all the reasons why. “He takes care…
Love & relationships4 min read
Why Do Marriages Break When There Is Still Love?
I have been that woman. The woman who could work, teach, raise children, run a home, remember everything and still somehow feel like she wasn’t doing…
The nervous system3 min read
Underneath the hunger
A client came to me because of a health issue. At some point she said, “I eat when I am not hungry. Then I feel horrible about it. Then I decide I’ll…
Love & relationships4 min read
What if the problem isn't that he doesn't love you?
She came to me because she was going through a breakup. And what made it difficult was that the relationship wasn’t empty. There was history…
The healing process5 min read
The part of choosing yourself nobody talks about
I know I have been absent for a while. A lot happened. I wasn’t well. My kids weren’t well. And then I got a very intimate look at what it actually…
What we inherit11 min read
What is generational trauma? The pain that began before you
What is generational trauma? How pain passes from parents to children, what epigenetics shows, the signs in your own family, and how it can stop with you.
Worth & shame10 min read
How to stop people pleasing when saying no feels unsafe
Learn how to stop people pleasing from the root: why saying no feels unsafe, the fear of not belonging underneath it, and what actually helps.
Love & relationships3 min read
When a woman is married but not sure anymore
In the beginning, it sounds like love. “You don’t have to work.” “I’ll take care of everything.” “You don’t have to worry about money anymore.” And…
Mothering4 min read
The mother I thought I knew
My parents visited last week. My mother was tired. I noticed it because she usually doesn’t let me notice. She has a physical deformity. She was born…
The healing process3 min read
“How did you find the courage?”
People often ask me, “How did you find the courage?” I understand why they ask. Because from the outside, it can look like I knew. Like I had figured…
The healing process3 min read
I Don’t Know What This Phase Is Asking of Me
The last month and a half has been one of those phases where nothing is exactly falling apart, but nothing feels settled either. My elder one was…
Worth & shame3 min read
Why Does Being Taken Care of Make Me Feel Guilty?
A client came to me with a question. “Why do I feel guilty when someone takes care of me?” She had a loving partner. He didn’t make her feel like a…
Love & relationships3 min read
“Why did you take 16 years to leave?”
Someone recently asked me, “Why did you take 16 years to leave a relationship that never made you happy?” And I didn’t know how to answer her…
Mothering4 min read
Sometimes I Feel Guilty for Loving My Work
There are days when I am working and one of my children wants me. And I feel that little pinch immediately. Maybe I should stop. Maybe they need me…
The healing process4 min read
“You’ve Changed.”
For the last few years of my marriage, I had almost stopped taking space. I didn’t realise it at first. I would stay in the conversation even when I…
What we inherit3 min read
Bina baap ke bacche hai…
Someone recently told me I should be a little more strict with my children. That perhaps I wasn’t being the mother I was supposed to be. And then…
Inner child4 min read
The Part of Me That Still Wants My Father to Be Proud
Last weekend, I took a short trip with my children. On the way back, sitting in the train, I asked my father if he could ask a friend of his to send…
Love & relationships5 min read
Mid life crisis and sparkless marriages
Sometimes a marriage doesn’t break. It slowly becomes something else. You still sleep beside each other. You still ask, “Did you eat?” “What time will you…
Love & relationships3 min read
“I don’t feel like asking my partner for money.”
A client said to me recently, “I don’t feel like asking my partner for money.” I knew what she meant. Perhaps because I belong to the women for whom asking…
Love & relationships3 min read
What “Musafir Cafe" taught me
I recently watched Musafir Cafe. When the film ended, I noticed something uncomfortable about which character I had been quietly rooting for.
Love & relationships3 min read
“Should I tell my partner about my past relationships?”
One of the questions I get asked surprisingly often is, “Should I tell my partner about my past relationships?” People usually expect me to answer
Love & relationships3 min read
When Friendships end
There are some relationships we never really grieve. Not because they mattered less. Because nobody tells us they can end without ever actually ending.
Love & relationships3 min read
The love that changes people
After years of sitting with people, there is one pattern I have stopped overlooking. It almost always comes disguised as love.
Love & relationships3 min read
Why Break-ups hurt so much
I don’t think breakups hurt as much as we think they do. At least… not for the reasons we imagine. People often tell me, “I miss them so much.” And I…
The healing process3 min read
I had no idea when my reasons changed
There was a time when I genuinely loved learning. A new book excited me. A podcast made a long drive feel meaningful.
Mothering3 min read
When two ordinary moments lighten my mother's guilt
I don’t think I’ve ever admitted this out loud. But there isn’t a fear I carry more quietly than this one. What if one day my boys have to heal from me?
Love & relationships3 min read
The quest of finding someone like me
For the longest time, I thought I knew what I was looking for in people. I wanted people who loved the books I loved.
Inner child2 min read
The chocolate was never the story
There are still evenings when I reach for the chocolate before I reach for myself. I wish healing had changed that.
The healing process3 min read
What fear does…
It’s been a little over a year since my separation. People often ask me what the hardest part was. They expect me to say…
Mothering3 min read
I wasn't meeting my children…
I always thought healing would make me a better mother. I never imagined it would first show me the ways my wounds were still parenting my son.
What we inherit2 min read
I had judged the answer... without ever understanding the question.
The more I loved my mother, the more desperately I wanted to become nothing like her. I’ve carried that sentence inside me for years.
Worth & shame3 min read
We don't suffer because of the events alone…
For years, I thought if I dressed nicely, I would be loved enough. Healing showed me I wanted something much harder to buy.
The healing process3 min read
Healing isn't that beautiful journey it's often sold as
One of the strangest things healing has done to me… …is that it hasn’t changed my past. It has changed what my past means.
The healing process3 min read
Aaj man nahi lag raha…
“Aaj mann nahi lag raha.” She said it while folding the laundry. He looked up from his phone. “Kya hua?” She shrugged. “I don’t know.” He walked…
The healing process3 min read
Which loss she could live with?
A woman once sat across from me and said, “I wish he were worse.” Then she cried. Not because she hated him. Because she loved him. If he had been…
Love & relationships3 min read
When being admired isnt same as feeling worthy of love
The strange thing about becoming someone’s inspiration is that it doesn’t heal the part of me that still struggles to receive. Over the years, people…
Love & relationships3 min read
To take the love they can offer. To grieve the love they cannot.
One of the hardest parts of healing is not what you lose. It’s what you stop waiting for. For years, I thought healing would bring me closer to my…
The healing process4 min read
The ugly reason of my absence
I just couldn’t write. Not because I was busy. I have been busy before. Not because life was hard. Life has been hard before too. This was different…
Worth & shame3 min read
The guilt which has no end
These days, I lose my patience faster than I recognize myself. The maids haven’t come for days. The house keeps slipping out of control. I clean one…
Mothering3 min read
From a mother's heart to the other
Some nights, after the kids fall asleep… I just sit quietly beside them and look at their faces for a little longer. The house finally becomes…
The healing process2 min read
A different kind of grieving
There are some betrayals that don’t just hurt you. They make you question whether you ever truly knew the person at all. And I don’t mean…
Love & relationships3 min read
“My Marriage Didn’t Just Fail Me. I Failed It Too.”
I really thought I was doing the right thing. When I got married, I was that chirpy, open girl. The kind who didn’t know how to hide what she felt…
The healing process2 min read
Do I regret making certain choices?
Recently, someone who has seen my life very closely asked me— “Sneha, do you regret making certain choices?” And for a moment… I just went quiet…
Mothering3 min read
The fear every mother carries
Life has a strange way of placing people. The lawyer who handled my divorce was also someone I knew… from my yoga class. And before she became my…
The healing process3 min read
When Awareness is used to not go deeper
There’s a new kind of client I’m seeing more often now. They come in aware. Clear. Articulate. They know the words. Trauma. Triggers. Inner child…
The healing process2 min read
When life finally slows down
There’s a phase I’m seeing more often now. A woman who has spent years tending to everyone else’s life. Meals. Schedules. Emotions. Silences. The…
The healing process2 min read
A sharp realization
I didn’t expect this shift to change me as a mother. But it did. Life in Indore has its own rhythm now. Mornings begin early. By 8, they’re out the…
The healing process4 min read
The Reason of my Absence
There’s a reason I went quiet. Not because I had nothing to say, but because life was asking me to listen… a little more than speak. March changed…
The healing process2 min read
Maybe, or Maybe Not
She checks her phone. No text. Heart flutters, collapses. Coffee mug shakes in her hands. He scrolls elsewhere. Doesn’t see. Or maybe he does. Maybe…
The healing process3 min read
The Secrets They Don’t Tell
It never starts with porn. It starts with a moment so small you could miss it if you weren’t the one hurting. A laptop closed too quickly. A screen…
Love & relationships2 min read
Financial Infidelity
It never begins with the big betrayal. Not with hidden EMIs. Not with secret accounts. Not with lies. It begins smaller. So small you can’t even call…
Worth & shame2 min read
The Judgments You Still Carry
There are moments in healing that feel like being caught without armour— when you realise the thing you’ve been avoiding isn’t judgment itself, but…
Love & relationships2 min read
When Love Wasn’t Really Love
There’s a moment in healing that most people don’t admit out loud— the moment you realise you weren’t loved… you were needed. And you kept calling it…
The nervous system2 min read
Closure Isn’t Something You Get. It’s Something Your Nervous System Stops Needing.
A woman sat across from me recently. Not a client you’d recognise. Not a story unique enough to identify. Just someone carrying the kind of hurt too…
Mothering1 min read
It Was Never My Children. It Was Everything I Didn’t Have.
For years, I told myself my children drained me. Their needs. Their noise. Their questions. Their constant closeness. I thought they were the reason…
Love & relationships2 min read
THE QUIETEST BREAK IN A RELATIONSHIP
I see it more often than anyone would imagine. Not the fights. Not the betrayals. Not the dramatic stories people think destroy relationships. It’s…
The nervous system2 min read
The ache behind not living in your own body
I see it all the time. Before they speak. Before they explain. The small shift in their body that says more than their words ever will. Because most…
The healing process2 min read
The Holi I grew up inside.. and the Holi I am meeting now…
When I think of Holi, my mind still runs back to childhood before I even realize it’s gone there. Those mornings were chaos in the best way. My…
The healing process2 min read
Who are you becoming in the process
Some time back, a friend called me. She told me she admired my courage. That walking out of my marriage made me an inspiration — to her, to many…
The nervous system2 min read
The fear that keeps running my life
A few years ago, two people died in the same week. Not even a week—just days apart. One was my father’s friend. The next morning, the newspaper…
Worth & shame2 min read
When productivity became my safe place
There was a long stretch of my life where I didn’t know how to rest. Not really. If I sat still, I felt guilty. If I stopped working, I felt lost. If…
The healing process2 min read
When you don't resonate with the life you built
There’s a kind of longing that people carry quietly. The kind that doesn’t break you — it just drains the color out of your days. You wake up…
Mothering2 min read
We cannot Heal our children
A client once looked at me with that particular kind of desperation only a mother knows. She said, “Sneha, I want to heal my children. I want to…
Mothering2 min read
What my children truly needed
Children always know. Long before we admit anything to ourselves. I spent sixteen years telling myself I was staying for the children. That they…
The healing process2 min read
The Forgotten Art of Waiting
This morning, I forgot my phone at home while taking the kids to the bus stop. Five minutes of waiting. Normally nothing. But without my phone, those…
The healing process2 min read
Learning to hold your own heart
We all seek love. If we’re honest, one of our deepest fears is being left alone. To love someone deeply — to notice the little things, to show up…
Mothering2 min read
Why I stopped being a gentle parent
My pre-teen son muttered “fine” and rolled his eyes. Not loud. Not dramatic. Just enough to make me pause. That tiny gesture carried the weight of…
Love & relationships2 min read
I felt jealous of her love
These days, I’ve been noticing something in me. Something small. And disturbing. Jealousy. Not the loud kind, not the obvious kind. The quiet…
The healing process2 min read
Who are you becoming here?
She called me after years. We spoke about ordinary things first. Work. Kids. Life. Then her voice softened, like she was asking permission to say…
The healing process2 min read
“October 2026 won’t save you — you have to.”
I met her after years. She sipped her tea, hands wrapped around the mug like it could hold her together, and said, “I’m giving myself time till…
The healing process2 min read
Thakur ji ki marzi hai
My father believes in karma. Prārabdha. When he sees me struggling, he says it like a balm: “This will free you.” My father doesn’t say it like a…
Love & relationships2 min read
He wanted me to fix his wife
He came to me asking me to save his marriage. He spoke for 50 minutes straight. Confidently. Almost proudly. “I’ve done everything right,” he said…
Love & relationships2 min read
Intimacy that disappeared slowly
Something quiet is happening in marriages. Not fights. Not affairs. Not dramatic exits. Just… less touch. Less sex. Less leaning in. Less reaching…
The healing process1 min read
The quiet cost of waiting
There’s something we rarely talk about. The cost of waiting. Not the money. Not the schedule. Not the inconvenience. The real cost is time that…
Love & relationships2 min read
When the wait for the 'real love' is too long
Recently, I worked with a woman who has never had a happy relationship. Not once. Not even for a short while. Every relationship ended the same way…
What we inherit2 min read
When the womb remembers which your mind cannot
Every month, her body went through the same ritual. Hope. Waiting. A small inner prayer she didn’t say out loud. And then — blood. Each cycle brought…
The nervous system2 min read
When I was tired of being tired
There was a time in my life when I was tired of being tired. So tired that even wanting comfort felt embarrassing. Like I was asking for too much. I…
Mothering1 min read
The healing that changed how she saw her child
She didn’t come for herself. She came because of her child. “I’ve read all the books,” she said. “I’m patient. I’m present. I do the work. And still…
Mothering2 min read
My love hurts my children
I raised my voice. And froze the moment it left me. Not anger. Not impatience. Just that sinking recognition. The old weight in my chest. The shadow…
The healing process3 min read
Jeena isi ka naam hai
There is a moment when the account gets credited. A notification. A number. A fleeting smile. A quiet, okay… we’re fine. And then it fades. Because…
The healing process2 min read
Depth can become a disguise
For a long time, I told myself I was choosing depth. I wasn’t chasing quick wins. I wasn’t seduced by shortcuts. I was “doing the work.” Learning…
What we inherit2 min read
Skill. Confidence. Clients. The Womb Healing Practitioner Training
There’s a gap most education systems never talk about. You see it everywhere. Engineers with degrees and no work. Doctors who know medicine but can’t…
Love & relationships2 min read
It wasn't just the affair
Infidelity doesn’t begin in the bed. It begins much earlier. In silence. In unmet longing. In the places we stopped turning toward each other. In my…
The healing process2 min read
“Why Trauma Work Cannot Be Taught Through Recordings”
Most trauma trainings fail quietly. They look good on paper. They promise depth. They use big words. But this is what many of them actually offer: ✨…
Worth & shame2 min read
When Abundance made him uncomfortable
He said it quietly. Almost embarrassed. “I don’t understand. Every time I save a little… something happens. I spend it. And I’m back at zero.” He…
What we inherit2 min read
“I Didn’t Borrow This Work. I Built It.”
I didn’t create this work by collecting techniques from books or trainings. I created it by sitting with bodies — again and again — and noticing what…
The nervous system3 min read
I Couldn’t Sit Still
We met on her day off. A senior school teacher. Decades in the classroom. Sharp. Efficient. Put together. We were chatting casually when she…
The healing process2 min read
The Moment I Realized My Training Had a Blind Spot
You don’t start this work because you’re inexperienced. You start it because you’ve gone far enough to feel the edge. You’ve trained. You’ve sat with…
The nervous system2 min read
More than a Scroll: healing my hidden escapes
I picked up my phone for a quick check—just a text, an email. But then, a reel. Then another. A dog trying to fit in a tiny box. A stranger making…
What we inherit2 min read
From Womb to Wealth: Practitioner Tools to Transform Patterns
She had a perfect childhood. Toys. Love. Laughter. Yet… she could never really enjoy money. When she came to me, she didn’t understand why. And the…
Love & relationships3 min read
“The day I realised I was not loved, but endured
I didn’t leave my marriage in one day. I left in increments so small I didn’t recognise them as leaving. I stayed through many almosts. Many maybe…
What we inherit2 min read
Womb Imprints: Healing the Stories Before Birth
She came to me after years of doing sincere healing work. Inner child therapy. Family systems. Ancestral work. Nervous system practices. And to be…
Mothering2 min read
When my inner children parents my children
Parenting has a way of showing you the parts of yourself you thought were healed. And then… they rise. When my son talks back. When he wastes his…
The healing process2 min read
What to Do When Clients Understand — But Still Struggle
By the time she arrived, her mother’s womb was already tired. It had loved before. Cared before. Stayed awake through long nights of giving. So when…
The nervous system3 min read
It wasn't about food or stress eating
I wasn’t hungry. Not really. But there I was again— standing in the kitchen, letting bhujia spill into my palm like it could hold the parts of me I…
What we inherit2 min read
Beyond Inner Child and Ancestral Work
They had done everything right. Fertility tests. Diets. Prayers. Month after month… the same heartbreak. Another negative. Each test whispered a…
Worth & shame3 min read
When being efficient made me invisible
When work-from-home became the norm, I thought I had cracked some secret code. I was a professor, a mother, a woman who could hold the world together…
What we inherit2 min read
“The Womb Code: Guiding Deep Emotional Shifts”
The child who wasn’t planned… yet always felt it. He wasn’t unwanted. But he arrived too soon. Too fast. Between jobs, between dreams, between two…
The nervous system2 min read
When Browsing Isn’t Really Browsing
It usually starts without intention. A few minutes between tasks. A screen already open. My thumb moving before I’ve really decided to move it. I’m…
What we inherit2 min read
Silent Vows, Hidden Patterns: Womb Healing Practitioner Training”
For as long as I can remember, my deepest fears were the same: Everyone will leave me. I’ll end up alone. I’ll be forgotten. No matter how bright…
Love & relationships1 min read
We are not compatible any more
We didn’t grow apart. We ran out of safety. There was a time when silence between us felt normal. Not peaceful. Just familiar. Arguments were never…
What we inherit2 min read
“Womb Wisdom: Unlocking Silent Vows – Practitioner Training for Deep Transformation”
She had already done so much. Inner child healing. Ancestral patterns. Real breakthroughs. Her life was changing. She was healing. And yet… something…
The healing process2 min read
2026, I’m Done With Big Promises
I’ve spent years making promises I couldn’t keep. Big ones. Heavy ones. “Lose weight.” “Read more.” “Exercise every day.” “Be the version of me…
The healing process3 min read
2025 — the year everything cracked… and the year I was carried.
If I close my eyes, I can still feel the first month of the year — Puri’s wind on my face, the sand sticking to my feet, the quiet assurance in…
The healing process2 min read
When the fight isn't between right and wrong
The biggest fight in my life doesn’t happen with other people. It happens inside me. It usually sounds like two voices. One is sharp. Certain…
Worth & shame1 min read
The not so uncommon receiving blocks
The first time someone told me I was beautiful, I laughed. Not because it was funny. Because I didn’t know how to receive it. When someone said I was…
Worth & shame3 min read
The quiet ache of not being “good enough”
I don’t remember the first time I learned I wasn’t enough. Not because it didn’t happen. But because it happened in tiny, quiet ways. So quiet that I…
Mothering3 min read
The Day My Therapist Brain Failed My Son
I need to say this out loud. There are days I don’t like the mother I become with my child. Not because I don’t love him. But because I’m tired. And…
Inner child3 min read
The Middle School Lesson I Still Feel in My Bones
I didn’t understand it at the time— that moment in middle school when the director of the school who was also a family friend leaned in and said…
Love & relationships2 min read
“Love isn’t confusing — being loved in the wrong language is.”
Some truths take years to say out loud — like how a parent can love you deeply and still leave marks you spend half your life trying to understand. I…
Love & relationships2 min read
Detachment Isn't Letting Go
Some endings don’t break us. They quietly show us how tightly we were holding on. I’ve lost people who weren’t lovers— friends, soul-connections…
The healing process3 min read
When I Thought Suffering Was My Karma
Someone once wrote to me saying, “Sneha, maybe it’s just my karma to suffer. Maybe I’m meant to endure.” I felt that line in my bones — because there…
Love & relationships3 min read
The Love That Caged Me… and the Love That Set Me Free
There’s a kind of love many of us grow up with. A love that looks loyal on the outside… but feels heavy on the inside. A love that says: “Stay quiet…
Love & relationships3 min read
Why We Still Expect Love From the People Who Hurt Us
Sometimes I look at my own life and quietly ask myself: If I know expectations hurt… why do I still expect? Why do I still wait for love from the…
Love & relationships2 min read
When They Made Me The Villain
Sometimes, people make you the villain. Not because you are. Because it’s easier than facing their own choices. Because it’s easier than looking at…
The healing process3 min read
When They choose to celebrate my birthday
For most of my life, my birthday was a quiet day. Not a celebration. A date I learned to pass through gently, without expectation. There were years…
The healing process4 min read
39 Years, One Soul, A Lifetime of Becoming
I was born into a middle-class family that measured wealth in values, not valuables. Where “ethics” wasn’t a chapter… it was the air. Where…
Love & relationships3 min read
The quiet fading of 'us'
The other day, I was sitting at a restaurant when I noticed a couple at the next table. Not arguing. Not laughing. Just… sitting beside each other…
Mothering2 min read
Parenting from my own wounds
I have hurt my children. Not with neglect. With fear. One evening, too much noise, too many demands, one question asked again— and my voice rose…
Love & relationships2 min read
When Leaving is Healing
Not everyone who hurts you is trying to. Some fight battles you can’t see. Battles they may not even know exist. And yet… love cannot grow when…
The healing process3 min read
“बुरा जो देखन मैं चला…” – the mirror of self”
I used to think the world was against me. Some six, seven years ago, I was in deep shit. Days blurred into each other. Crying. Staring at the…
Love & relationships2 min read
When I Fall In Love All Over Again
Kashmir was always a dream in my head. A place I imagined visiting with a partner. Hands intertwined. Shikara swaying gently. Mountains watching…
The healing process2 min read
The Sad Part About Healing
The truth about growth is cruel sometimes. You will lose more people than ever before. After my last post, an old friend messaged me. Shock…
Love & relationships2 min read
“Why don’t we live together anymore?”
Co-parenting is brutal. You walk a tightrope. Between someone who resents you more than they love the children… and children who see the cracks you…
The healing process3 min read
The Anger We Carry
My older one came home after being bullied… and then he ended up bullying someone else. And in that moment, when I saw his little face twisted with…
The healing process2 min read
Reclaiming Myself- Beyond the Name
I didn’t disappear from social media because I was resting. I disappeared because I was grieving a death no one else could see. My divorce didn’t…
Love & relationships2 min read
When Love alone isn't enough
I used to believe love was enough. That if two people loved each other, somehow — it would all work out. The fights would soften.
Worth & shame2 min read
When Jealousy Isn't About Them… But About the Story You Carry Inside
Let’s talk about jealousy. That tightness in your chest when you see someone having what you secretly long for. That bitter ache when someone you know…
Love & relationships2 min read
What really hurts in a relationship
You know what really hurts in relationships? When one person keeps asking — “Can we talk?” And the other keeps running.
Love & relationships2 min read
We don't fear love, we fear how deeply we can feel it
In my work — and in my own life — I’ve seen how much love lives inside each of us. Not the surface-level affection.
Worth & shame2 min read
The wounds behind our high standards
I didn’t realise for years that the harshest voice I heard was my own. The one that told me I should’ve done better.
The healing process1 min read
The cost of waiting
No decision is ever free. Even when you say “I’ll think about it later”, you’re paying for it. With your time. Your focus.
The healing process3 min read
Some Pains Aren’t Here to Break Your Heart — They’re Here to Burn Your Ego.
I used to think suffering was unfair. Like life singled me out for pain while everyone else moved on untouched. I remember days when I’d sit in my room…
The nervous system4 min read
Overthinking is a symptom rather than a problem
I used to think that my overthinking was my biggest flaw. Endless nights spent replaying conversations, imagining worst-case scenarios, analyzing every…
The healing process2 min read
It Was Never Fear That Kept Me Stuck — It Was the Story I Told Myself About It.
For the longest time, I believed fear was what kept me from making decisions. Leaving situations that hurt. Choosing myself.
Mothering2 min read
I hurt my children without meaning to
I want to tell you a truth I’ve been ashamed to say out loud for a long time. I have hurt my children. Not in the ways you might think.
Worth & shame3 min read
When balance feels like a beautifully wrapped trap
Since you are home anyway, can you just cook lunch today? A look at how the language of balance quietly hands one person all of the work.
What we inherit7 min read
The Holi we left behind
Growing up, Holi wasn’t just a festival. It was a feeling. It was my dad twirling to old Bollywood songs, his laughter rising above the music.
Inner child4 min read
A letter to my Inner Child
My Dearest Sneha, I see you. I see you sitting quietly in the corner, your small fingers tracing patterns on the floor, trying to disappear.
New writing, as it goes out
I send these out by email through Substack. Cohort dates for the trainings go to that list first.
Next step
If something here described your life, that is usually not a coincidence.
Write to me and tell me which part landed. That sentence is often the most useful starting point we could have.